“I should” write the first blog article for my new website about “alternative immunization schedules” or “home-made diets”. Isn’t that what is expected of me? “I should” is exactly why it took me a month to write this first blog article. It is not an inspiring platform. In fact, it is very destructive. (*)
Do any of these “shoulds” sound familiar to you?:
- “I should give that recommended vaccine to my dog.” (even though it doesn’t feel quite right to me)
- “I should do that test or give that medicine.” (even though I cant afford it and don’t even really want to)
- “I should prepare a home-made diet for my pet.” (even though I don’t have time for it)
There is a time and place for all those things. However, if they are coming from a place of “I should”, they are probably a reaction to feelings of guilt, shame, or fear and probably to undue external pressure. For example, “I’m a bad pet owner, if I don’t do what my vet, the media, or even my friend tells me to do.”
I encourage you to look at what you “WANT”. Respond to your pet’s needs with accurate information and with compassion for him and yourself. I can help you with that.
People’s joy is found in “I want”. People are all full of passion and creativity. We find those gifts by asking ourselves what we “want.”
How do you “want” to live with your pet? How do you “want” to care for your companion? Those are the important questions.
You are a wonderful person for doing exactly what you “want”. We all deserve to know your passion and creativity.
If you can turn your “shoulds” into “wants”, you will be a happier and more decisive person. I will help you, if I can.
I want to provide a good home, big love and reasonable care to a dog, while living within a budget my family can afford.
I want a rescue agency to ask us how we live and how we love our dogs, and to help find a dog they are willing to let live in the country free to run in the woods and down to the creek – trained to stay around home, not fenced in a yard.
I want you to be my vet.
I LOVE your comment. It is perfect. It sums up a position that I would like to see rescue organizations take. Knowing how to recognize a loving family could be the foundation to any screening process. I like to see owners allow dogs to engage in good “dog activities” too, which may be more valuable to their overall well-being than cradling pets. Also, “reasonable care” within a budget, is good enough. I would not want to see any critters miss the opportunity to part from 24/7 kennel residence, because of “perfection getting in the way of good enough.” Good luck!
I want you to move to my neighborhood so my dogs and I can see you whenever we “want”!
I wish i could too! How about you move to my neighborhood!? 🙂